Photo by Gaetan Lee
I’m a big fan of seeing people succeed at whatever they are passionate about. To me, it is in a way like watching an athlete perform – there is an elegance, a beauty, a truth in the Universe in the movement and their grace. They flow – they are in their element. It also gives you hope, because if they can do it…
A common challenge for creative people is the lack of support they encounter as they build their career. Amazingly, the most likely source of support is from strangers or acquaintances. I believe that the hesitation of family and friends to pledge unconditional support does stem from a place of love and concern, but it manifests itself negatively almost every time – as judgment. We see someone about to take a risk, and we are worried – moreso because we judge creative risks to have a low ‘return on investment’, so to speak, and that it’s a ‘waste of time’ or will end badly (drugs, depravity, desperation – you guys are creative types – you know how we live).
Which Witch is Which?
I think one of the big challenges in trying to lead a fulfilling life is learning to tell the difference between Fears - those things which make you afraid because they are actually dangerous and/or a bad idea, and those which you fear because they are new, different, challenging, and may result in (GASP) ‘failure’. If you ask an entrepreneur, these last are called ‘opportunities’, and ‘failure’ is simple a natural part of the journey to ’success’. There is no easy way to learn to tell the difference – it’s a matter of being very honest with yourself and listening to your intuition. You will eventually be able to judge your fears with good accuracy, and I’ve made it a recent habit to always say ‘Yes’ to doing things which terrify me for all the right reasons.
What does this have to do with support? Well, a lot of people don’t know how to tell apart their fears, and their fear for you takes over – that you’ll fail and be unhappy, that you’ll end up in a bad place, that you’ll blow the family fortune, or even (and possibly more often than you’d expect) that you’ll be a big success and they’ll feel lousy for not having taken a chance on their dreams themselves – dreams which they let die long ago for all the wrong reasons (fear of ‘failure’, being pragmatic). Now, I’m not saying people should enable foolhardiness – again, this is one of those times when you have to see fear for what it is – is there a justifiable reason you are afraid?
Hector Projector
Now, by virtue of who this blog is intended for, I doubt I’m going to convert anybody who is not on a creative endeavor into being a Champion of the Dreamer. But I think it helps to know where they are coming from – that fear. It’s not really about YOU, it’s them and their own ’stuff’ that they are projecting on to you. So what to do?
Do everything from a place of love.
Do it for yourself, don’t rely on outside support to do what you do. Treat it as a nice ‘extra’ if you do receive it, and cherish and nurture that in people – it’s a rare thing. That’s important too – to realize it’s not a given that people will support you. Learn to give yourself support by judging your own stuff less critically, and by letting the work be a reward in itself. And, even more importantly – GIVE AWAY WHAT YOU WANT – if you want support, support others. It’ll come back to you, in such abundance it will surprise you. It’s one of the weirder laws of the Universe – if you want something, give it away.
Quack quack
Let the negative roll off your back (you were wondering what the heck ducks had to do with this, eh?). I mean really: let it roll off and dissipate (no baggage hanging around for future bitterness) – and this is a challenge. Let it go. Again – it’s not easy and it does take practice. But if you are going to succeed, you are going to have to keep at it – and if you are going to keep at it, you’ll need to build thick skin – for rejection, and for those who just don’t really care about you or your work. Work hard, but learn to move on quickly if you’re not getting anywhere. Approach things without expectation and with no emotional attachment to the outcome – do it for what you love to do, not for what you think you should get.
No Island
But that’s only part of the picture – you need some sort of sustenance, support – you can’t be completely self-sufficient, you just won’t make it all alone. Seek out you champions and supporters. Actively look for people and groups that are aligned with your values and goals. They will become your support structure, and provide guidance and direction when you need it. Find a mentor in your field – they will help you in real ways that others cannot – on an emotional, and practical level. Surround yourself with positive, inspiring, motivated people who themselves have goals that they are not giving up on.
Come on people now, smile on your…
Finally, I really want to encourage everyone to… ah… encourage everyone! Try to jump in with genuine excitement and enthusiasm the next time someone describes their latest pet project, album idea, business plan, film treatment, or whatever. It’s a small thing, but having that support, even a token ‘Sounds awesome! Go for it!’ can make a huge difference to opening up creativity and improving chances – don’t perpetuate limiting beliefs – perpetuate passion, creative energy and love.
OK, time for a group hug! … and maybe some Gravol for the nausea?




